Ageing with Grace

Check-Ups and Health Screenings

My good friend’s brother Tim was diagnosed with advanced mouth cancer 3 months ago. It’s been a struggle since then to treat the illness but they are doing their best and Tim is not giving up.

I keep thinking about one thing my friend told me in regards to this. Right after learning about the diagnosis over the phone, he rushed over to his brother’s house, and he sat with his brother and his brother’s partner working out a plan of action. He told me that later, once everyone else in the house was asleep they just sat in comforting silence on the deck and out of the blue Tim said, “I’ve known something was wrong for a while.” Apparently he had symptoms for over a year but didn’t do anything about it until the discomfort became overwhelming. When he finally addressed the issue, it was almost too late.

Without going into the details of what Tim is dealing with right now, suffice it to say it is a whole-damn-lot. It’s frightening to think of someone you care for existing like this. He is not the person he was a year ago and he will never be the same again. 

I thought it best to start with that dose of reality because way too many of us are not allowing ourselves to age as gracefully as we can healthy wise. It’s imperative to be as proactive as possible and double down on all efforts once we reach 40 years old. 

Why should you care? Because early detection is the best way to combat any illness and gives you an effective chance to survive it. Early detection means committing to regular check-ups and screenings.

In a perfect world everyone on the planet would get an annual check-up that covers all the bases. But, the world is a raging dumpster fire so we do what we can. If you are healthy you should get a check up at least once every 3-5 years up until you are about 40. Once you turn the big 4-0 you need to make the effort to get annual check-ups. Look at this as the time to check-in with your doctor in regards to your general and sexual health. It’s also the opportunity to talk about any bodily changes you may have noticed and to address any concerns. 

When you see your doctor for the check-up, you should talk to them about what screenings you should get and when. Everyone’s needs can strikingly differ depending on their lifestyle. 

Otherwise, here is a basic breakdown of what you can expect. 

Cholesterol and Blood Pressure
Colon Cancer
Prostate Cancer
Testicular Cancer
Skin Cancer
Hearing and Vision
Oral Health

Take care of yourself and allow yourself to age as gracefully as possible by being mindful of your health check-ups and screenings.

The Daddyhunt Team

Hello Cold Weather, Hello Anxiety

Oh… Sweet, sweet summer. Morning hikes and bike rides. Afternoon pool time and shady trees. Cocktails at sunset. But wait. What’s that? Did I just get a whiff of pumpkin spice in the air? My nose suddenly runs, and I think the wind just gave me a chill. Now I wish I had a jacket and a tissue pack in my pocket.

Friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ear. Fall is here in the States, and for many of us, it comes with the pull of seasonal anxiety and depression. For many, it starts now and will peak in the Winter around the holidays into what we call the “Winter Blues.” With less daylight and a drop in temperature, we lose our carefree ways. We wake up before the sun rises and come home after it has set. We pray we’re wearing enough layers and might be inspired to take a long nap to manage our lethargy. Hibernating starts to sound really good. Unfortunately, this can lead to one down a road we want to avoid.

Seasonal anxiety disorder, also known as SAD (the irony), doesn’t have a clear cause but experts link it to less sunlight. The sun helps modulate our hormonal levels and the chemicals in our brains linked to depression and anxiety. In addition, it is thought that a portion of the population has a gene that requires sunlight to release positive neurotransmitters in the brain. If true, that means some of us need the sun to feel good.  

If you feel like you are on the path to SAD, here are a few things you can do to combat it: 

  • Light Up Your Life – Look into something called light therapy. You can buy fancy lamps for this, but simply shining a bright light on one’s face for an extended period of time can work wonders. Also, get out into the sun whenever you can. Go out for lunch and walk on the sunny side of the street. Bundle up and take a walk in the park on a Sunday. Soak up all the sun you can get. 
  • Keep It Moving – Kick up the exercise. Between less sun and more pies and hot chocolates, this seems like a great time to add an additional exercise class to the regime or increase gym time. There may be days when you have to push yourself, but only good things will come from it. 
  • Hang Out With Your People – You know what I said about hibernating earlier? Scratch that. Being alone with anxiety and depression can make it even worse. Put in the effort to go out and have a good time. Open yourself to the light that you get from those you love.

Seasonal Anxiety Disorder is often not considered serious, but it can become overwhelming for some. If you or someone you know is suffering from depression, please contact the following:

The Daddyhunt Team

Handling Homophobic, Biphobic and Transphobic Behavior

The International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia was established in 2004 and 17th of May was chosen specifically to commemorate the World Health Organization’s decision to declassify homosexuality as a mental disorder in 1990.  To celebrate this date, numerous small and large projects have been recorded all over the world, even in countries where same-sex activity is illegal – but for many of us, the hardest battles are being fought within our most intimate circles.

While some friends, co-workers and family members are very supportive, some might experience certain challenges in accepting who you are. It’s important to keep in mind that it is not about you – it’s them. Simply put, you are not responsible for what some individuals may think, as this kind of mindset often goes together with a wider pallet of personal values and beliefs which have nothing to do with you, so you cannot just ‘’change their mind’’ overnight. This all being said, of course, is much easier to apply when we’re interacting with people we don’t really know. However, once an emotional or a deeper connection is implied, as it is with our family or friends, how we receive or react can be more challenging.

When it comes to our family members, it’s good to be patient, without insisting to be accepted right away or within a time frame that you think is ok for you. Again, it’s about them. It’s fine to acknowledge their own fear and confusion, even anger, so give it time and sometimes give space too, as family members sometimes do learn their own way on how to accept or even embrace your sexual identity. At times it can be very hurtful, excommunicating even, sometimes this ‘’acceptance’’ comes very silently and sometimes it just doesn’t happen. If you recognize your own family as crucial to your own existence (not everyone does, and that is perfectly fine), maybe to try hanging out more with one or two relatives who seem alright with your choices, or don’t ask you about them, and with whom you can nurture a healthy relationship in the future.

Unlike family, friends are people that we consciously choose to be part of our lives. Some close friends who happen to be on a more intuitive side already knew what was to be known about you, even without a clear demonstration from your side, so you probably don’t have to explain a lot. These friends are to be kept close while others who do manifest some sort of homophobic manners might as well go from friends to acquittances, if anything at all, and you will lose nothing (but they might).

Some people in our environment will continue to make insensitive remarks, or demonstrate certain behavior, completely oblivious to the impact it can have on those around them. If you feel that the environment is safe and you happen to be into smart or funny comebacks, feel free to participate in a discussion, why not? But it would be good for you to avoid placing yourself in a position where you must personally justify or explain yourself.  Instead, recognize the place where the other person is coming from: is it related to religion, or maybe a more conservative community or set of values, is it the type of media they’ve been consuming, so you can tackle on that. However, be sure that you are well informed on the subject and what the other side is saying.

For example, if the other person’s position is based on religious views, you can always rely on the tendency of religious people to selectively use or interpret quotes from the Bible itself: on one side citing against homosexuality, but on the other side ignoring quotes in which adultery, and a woman entering a marriage and not being a virgin is punishable by death. So, focus your arguments on human evolution and the way people think and interact with each other, which makes some religious commands irrelevant or even a bit bizarre for today’s society, like the biblical verses (Leviticus 19:19 and Deuteronomy 22:11) prohibiting wearing wool and linen fabrics in one garment, blending of different species of animals, and the prohibition of planting different kinds of seeds together.

One of the most frequent homophobic arguments is the one claiming that homosexuality is ‘’not natural’’, on which you can reply with a philosophical contra concept – is it possible for something unnatural to exist in nature itself? Or just offer a long list of animals who are known for demonstrating homosexual or bisexual behavior and are found in nature itself.  Let alone the fact that the known history of civilization can be interpreted also through aspects of various sexual preferences (and expressions) of humans through history and you can use this argument especially if someone says that ‘’being gay is a trend’’ or something along those lines.

The need for procreation is another ‘’argument’’ you may hear, but you can remind your conversationalist that procreation is a choice, and that people indeed have the right to choose their own purpose in life, and no, having children doesn’t have to be the only one, even if you identify as heterosexual. You can also ask them, why do they think that everyone’s sole purpose in life should be to procreate? There is also a theory that the role of homosexuality in nature is a signal that we should slow down a bit. Maybe they also need to know that homosexuality does not eradicate heterosexuality, the two can co-exist.

Homosexuals are also a result of heterosexual intercourse and that gives space against the argument that gay couples (if they opt for it) shouldn’t adopt (or have a child via a surrogate) children because these children will ‘’learn’’ to be gay. Ask them, why didn’t a gay person ‘’learn’’ to be straight?

Challenge the way they think by informing them about animals and plants that have both male and female reproductive organs and that they can reproduce asexually by themselves (parthenogenesis). Remind them that things in life aren’t black or white, and as simple as they might think.

If they are having issues understanding what trans means and that people can have a gender identity that differs from the sex that they were assigned at birth. Inform them about ancient Greek and Roman priests named Galli, who wore women’s clothing, heavy jewelry and make up and who had a considerable political influence during this period (some have even engaged in ritual self-castration). Remind them that there are children born with a range of medical issues (that are either life-threating or these issues are making their lives miserable) and that these issues can only be addressed with surgery. In some cases, this happens earlier and in other cases much later in life. This, of course, doesn’t mean that all trans people opt for sex-reassignment surgery. For some it’s more about the freedom to express their identity that doesn’t necessarily fall within the gender roles that society had assigned to them.

You never know, you can end up having a meaningful discussion with some people, with some, on the other hand is better not to engage at all. Evaluate the situation and decide whether it’s worth engaging.

Overall, identifying kind people around you, friends, coworkers or relatives who are there for you and spending more time with them will do you good. Joining a local LGBT+ support group can also be a great idea, as you can find more practical techniques and advises on how to overcome homophobia in your everyday life. But, if you are experiencing harassment which threatens your mental or physical health, seeing a therapist or a counselor can help, or in some cases, visiting the nearest police station.

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The Daddyhunt Team

How To Improve Your Mental Health Right Now

Mental Health Awareness Month is an observance meant to bring awareness to mental health issues. Self-care is an important, if not a crucial, way to look after your mental health. The DH team has assembled a list of things most of us can do for ourselves in order to improve our mood and general well-being.

  1. Sleep

The importance of getting enough (quality) sleep cannot be emphasized enough! Sleep helps our body regulate emotions and improves cognitive function (learning and memory). Consequences of poor emotional regulation include: anxiety, the feeling of ‘being stuck’, and an increased risk of developing a range of mental health issues. The best way to enable yourself to get enough sleep is to be aware of what outside factors impact your sleep negatively. Overconsumption (or just consumption) of caffeine, alcohol, drugs (and nicotine) notably reduce the time of slow-wave sleep, which is the stage of deep, restful sleep that leaves us feeling refreshed and alert in the morning. In short, if you’re lacking sleep, you won’t be able to properly do anything else, let alone attend to your troubles or talk about them with someone. So, before anything, make sure you prioritize getting enough of it.

  • Physical Activity

Not everyone is able to exercise or go to the gym when the mood is not right, but most of us should be able to do some light physical activity or have a 30 minute walk. Numerous studies have found that even light physical activity boosts mood, lowers stress levels and even improves cognitive functions like attention, memory and problem solving. These benefits may be rooted, in part, in exercise’s ability to increase our brains’ production of the chemicals dopamine and serotonin, according to a review of studies published in the journal Brain Plasticity in March 2017. Regular physical activity also helps with sleeping patterns and is advised if one is having difficulty sleeping. If possible, try doing some exercises or walks outdoors, preferably somewhere in nature.

  • Diet

What goes into your mouth (wink, wink) impacts the way you function, whether you like it or not. There is a bidirectional communication system, between the gut and the brain, termed the gut-brain-axis. Studies show that your gut affects your brain health and vice versa. Your gut and brain are connected through chemicals called neurotransmitters and neurotransmitters produced in the brain control feelings and emotions. For example, the neurotransmitter serotonin contributes to feelings of happiness and also helps controls your body clock. So make sure you educate yourself on which foods impact your microbiome in a beneficial way. This, of course, doesn’t mean that you can’t have a pizza but make sure that your diet consists of balanced meals – probiotics and prebiotics, fermented foods, tryptophan-rich and high fiber foods (fatty fish, turkey, yogurt, kefir, sauerkraut, fruits and vegetables etc.) Preparing smoothies and steaming vegetables and fish (a pan with a lid, and a strainer is all you need), are an easy way to make sure you consume a diverse range of these essential foods.

  • Socialize

What exercises are for your body, socializing is for your mind! Interactions we make with others are like ‘’training’’ for our brain, as meaningful social connections and participation in social activities can enrich our cognitive potential, improve brain’s agility and, in the long run, even lower the risk of dementia. The effort to stay connected with people around you can be worth a while, as it can save you from unhealthy form of isolation and ease your feelings of depression.

  • Practice Being Present

Practice being aware of your environment. Focus and name (not necessarily out loud if you’re in public) the things you can smell, taste, hear and see at that moment, but without interpreting. Inform yourself on different mindfulness or anchoring techniques, the latter especially if you are experiencing panic attacks. Your mental health will also benefit from making a change in your everyday scenery or daily routine, especially if you’re experiencing ‘’brain fog’’ or feel a bit absent-minded. Take your time to recharge, read a book, watch a movie, listen to your favorite music and just take a break.

Important note: The above list is made only to help you ‘’through the day’’ and in certain situations, and is not to be identified with professional help, in case you may need it. If you experience constant struggle and feel your mental health is worsening, professional help is available, so please consult your nearest healthcare giver. Read more about Mental Health of Gay and Bisexual Men at DH Blog!

The Daddyhunt Team

12 Gay Circuit Parties/Festivals To Attend in 2022

After two pandemic-years off the dancefloor (for some) it’s time to welcome a new party season! Some of the most popular party events, are happening throughout the whole year, with many smaller parties surrounding the main event! Regardless of your relationship status, parties like these can really be an excellent experience, depending on individual preferences, e.g., the type of music you like or the main ‘’theme’’. Another key factor might the amount of money you’re willing to give for fun, as some of these sonic gems are held in gorgeous (sometimes expensive!) destinations around the world, but DH has made a list of best parties that are worth every penny!

  1. The White Party, Palm Springs

One of the biggest gay circuit parties in US, the desert party is happening in late April every year – and yes, we’re a bit late with this one, but keep it in mind for next year, as it offers a unique weekend experience with pool parties, go-go shows and fireworks and it attracts over 30,000 people every year.

2. Masterbeat, LA

Leading producer of entertainment featuring live acts, dancers, and performers, Masterbeat equals high-quality venues and world-class DJs. It hosts parties in LA, NYC and Miami. Best known for their main event on New Year’s Eve,  with other events on holiday weekends, Masterbeat hosts great parties early in the summer as well, so it’s not too late to buy your tickets now!

3. Folsom, San Francisco

In short: the kinkiest event of its kind! This street festival is a fantasy brought to life for every BDSM & leather lover. It offers numerous stages with different kinds of music, but also erotic performances, dancing spots and playgrounds! This year’s events are planed at the end of July and September, so mark your calendar!

4. One Magical Weekend, FL

Held at the first weekend of June, One Magical Weekend is indeed related to Pride Month, but it’s a perfect opportunity to check out the legendary Walt Disney Park, if the amusement park is your thing, as it’s the location of the event. One of the most creative events of this kind, One Magical Weekend offers a different theme every year!

5. Black & Blue, Montreal

The biggest gay-benefit dance festival in Canada, Black & Blue is hosted by the BBCM Foundation, which supports social, financial, and medical assistance to individuals living with HIV/AIDS.

6. Le Demence, Brussels

This highly-praised venue hosts events all year long, mainly on bank holidays. Known for its various themes, usually season or holiday related, Le Demence has three dance floors with different music, quality DJs and dance acts, acrobatic shows and – yes – darkrooms for the naughtiest of them all!

7. Rapido, Amsterdam

Being one of the most popular LGBTQ venues in the Netherlands, Rapido hosts parties all year. It has several dance arenas with different music, and of course – drag shows! What makes Rapido special is its playroom, for those who are willing to really let their guards down when the things start to heat up!

8. XCAPE, Sweden

If you’re in the mood for some hot and themed gay parties, Stockholm is a place to visit! This year, XCAPE brings some hot Brazilian summer energy, sexy go go’s and hot guys from Sweden and beyond! Every month a new theme, so expect the unexpected!

9. XCLSIOR, Mykonos

Thousands of beautiful men from all over the world gather every year to explore Mykonos, the Mediterranean gay mecca. XCLSIOR is a festival which offers top quality DJs and shows, but also some more intimate island gatherings, so if you’re in the mood for a combination of excellent clubbing and a dream holiday, XCLSIOR is perfect for you!

10. Circuit Festival, Barcelona

Held in one of the best cities for gay nightlife and culture, this huge festival combines all what’s wonderful about Spain: the amazing weather and vibrant energy! It hosts main parties, but also many pre-parties during August. Besides dancing and great music, they also have a water park with a huge pool and rides (and you know what that means: plenty of really hot half-naked guys!).

11. Revolver, Berlin

Revolver Party takes place every month, featuring the best local and international DJ’s, go-go dancers and performers, taking place in Berlin’s KitKatClub, the home of the infamous HustlaBall “Peepshow”. Revolver also hosts DRTY afterparty and a very special, official edition during the Folsom Europe weekend.

12. Forever Tel Aviv

Forever Tel Aviv, known for great dance parties, hosts regular events, internationally. It has become one of the top gay events in last couple of years, with beach parties with thousands of hot men and the biggest DJs in the gay scene! Its main event is being held in June with pre-parties in May, so start packing!

The Daddyhunt Team

DADDYHUNT TIPS: Best Ways To Approach Guys On A Dating App

One can’t really rely on body language, eye contact or other physical indications when approaching a guy in the online dating realm. Instead, much of it depends on your ability to communicate. Communication isn’t only about words; it can also be about your vibe”, which some people can “pick up” and interpret without even meeting you in person. Also, the way you’ve presented yourself in your dating app profile, can significantly improve your chances for a first date – or do quite the opposite, which is why we recommend checking out one of our previous DADDYHUNT Tips on ‘How to Create a Dating Profile That Works’.

So, here are some suggestions on how to reach out and how to improve your game when using a dating app.

  • Confidence

In short, confidence is sexy! It is how we think and feel about ourselves and it’s the key thing in everything we do, not just online dating. Yes, from time to time, we all struggle with our self-esteem, but by working on yourself on a regular basis, both mentally and physically, you build up your confidence and you can shine some of it by being comfortable with yourself.

  • Compliment

Giving a compliment is a good way to start a conversation. By doing so, you can create a general feel-good setting both for yourself and your potential date. Complimenting a guy on his looks is, of course, an additional boost from you, but complimenting on other things as well, such as; music taste, favorite movies, books, or any other interests listed on his profile is a great way to break the ice. Also, don’t hesitate chatting with someone who’s abroad, it doesn’t always have to be about the meet up. Check out the ‘Global’ or any other grids on DADDYHUNT and start a topic (politics, cultural differences etc.) with someone from a country that you’ve been planning or always wanted to visit.

  • Unlock Your Private Photos

Go ahead and unlock your private photos. It’s a no brainer. If you’re interested in the guy, unlock your private photos to get to the bottom (or top!) 😉 of things! But, before doing that, make sure he’s okay with accepting NSFW content (guys who aren’t, usually stress that in their profile). Make sure you re-lock your photos after you’ve showed the goodies.

  • Shout-Out!

Online communication is not always so “detailed” and a lot if it might be lost with all the acronyms and emojis. However, these little signs of affection sometimes can take you far, so feel free to use a Shout-Out emoji to potentially start a conversation. But, being fun and light-hearted in its essence, a Shout-Out emoji may not be enough if you want to continue chatting, so you might have to think about the next thing to say.

  • Relax

You are on a dating app, so don’t take things too personally. We all have preferences and sometimes it’s just not a match, and that’s ok. Outside the app, people have a life, obligations, (or personal issues) etc. You don’t have the obligation to reply to every single guy who messages you, and neither does he. Being respectful (and having self-respect) is what matters.

Happy Hunting!

The Daddyhunt Team

STI Awareness Month: Talk, Test, Treat

April is STI Awareness Month. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC):

There are 20 million new STI cases in the U.S. every year.

During STI Awareness Month we focus on raising awareness on STI’s (Sexually Transmitted Infections) and how STI’s affect lives. The focus is on reducing fear, stigma and discrimination while providing both knowledge and tools to the public on how to prevent, test and treat STI’s.

While continuously emphasized that all STI’s can be prevented and treated and most can be cured, the CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention) marks a rise in STD’s among gay and bisexual men. Besides syphilis, the concern for gay, bisexual and MSM are chlamydia and gonorrhea, while HPV is the most common STD in the U.S. Some types of HPV can lead to anal or oral cancer and the statistics aren’t favoring MSM, as they are 17 times more likely to get anal cancer than heterosexual men, and more than half of all new HIV infections occur among MSM, while HIV-positive men are especially vulnerable.

With no signs or symptoms, most STI’s can go undetected. It means that one can get infected without knowing it. In fact, testing is, sometimes, the only way to know your STI status. If you are infected and not being treated, you can pass the infection to your sexual partner(s). Most STI’s are passed on via unprotected sexual contact, which is why the use of condoms is highly recommended. So, by ‘’just practicing oral’’ does not mean you’re safe. Untreated STI’s can lead to serious, sometimes even devastating, and long-term problems, like blindness, bone deformities, and sterility. If you have more than one sexual partner, it is advised to do STI screenings more often (every 3 to 6 months).

Having multiple partners means being at a higher risk of getting infected. Having an STI – like herpes, syphilis, or gonorrhea – also puts you at a higher risk of getting infected with HIV. So getting tested on a regular basis should be a priority. There are many ways to protect yourself and your partner(s). The easiest way protect yourself is to practice safe sex and know your STI status. Vaccination against STI’s is also very important. Openly discussing your STI status with your partner(s) and your healthcare provider is also an important step. Proper condom use, avoiding risky behavior (sex, drugs and rock’n’roll combined all together would be a no in this case) and limiting or better yet controlling the number of partners can also reduce risks of getting and spreading of STI’s.

For more information on how to protect yourself, check out the links below:

How to Prevent STIs (

How to Choose the Best Condom? – GAY NEWS PORTAL

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