We all never forget the first time we lose our virginity. And gay men are lucky enough to have TWO virginities lost in their lifetime. You have a choice between which one you want to lose first, and you can never really tell who is going to chose what. It is either enter the manhole, or push-in the cushion… I totally remember both vividly.
But there are a small fraction of guys that seem to be outwardly proud that they’ve never (and never will) let a stallion into the stable. Total Tops? Gimme a break.
See, I think there is a misconception that ye-who-only-enters is somehow more masculine, and dominant than the man that’s receiving. First, I have certainly come across some of the manliest men I know that know how, and love to, take it good and long. Second, I think that this mindset is really just a vestige of straight relationship models. It aims to basically mimic what most of us grew up with… one man, one woman, two roles, both different. But in a male homosexual relationship there is no woman, you’re two of the same being that can, given our bodies, both give AND receive. It’s not as simple as lock and key.
