Thanks Champ, you are getting much closer to hitting that proverbial nail on the head. Who the hell invented the "measuring stick" here? Pay close attention - I don't want the relationship of my parents, it is not in my expectation. I am not a woman and do not plan to have a relationship with a man who expresses the needs of a woman. Two men in a relationship WILL be very different. You only need to look to Biology of all animals. Men spill their seed - here there, everywhere - women feel the need to pick from the right gene pool and make a nest at home - and then stop having sex. Stop trying to push men into that mold.

True love will come with acceptance for being EXACTLY who we are. We want fun sex. We're Men, it's what we do. I will be loyal to one man - I will be there in the hospital if he's sick, I'll beat the crap outta anyone who tried to harm him, I'll watch movies, make dinner, lead the conversation, hold his hand, point out a songbird, help pay the bills, clean the house - we are love and love each other. Sex - getting your cock to shoot a load of cum - has little to do with it. Yeah, it's fun for the first 5 years when you're real sexually turned on only by each other but prepare yourself for the inevetible. As painful as it appears, we're all gonna wanna have fun and fill stiffeled when we can't have fun. Do all those things that a loyal partner does but also, cheer your buddy on for getting a blowjob from a cute cub. It can be as simple as that.

If you believe the endgoal is a happy life with a true partner you can share all of life's joys with and someone you can depend on I say let go of the jealousy around sex and stop using it as a weapon. When you think back on the TV shows and celebrities who advocate leaving a man for an adulterous sexcapade it makes me wonder where that lunacy got started. I certainly hope as gay men we can accept our unique sexuality and make it a wonderful thing and not a burden.