William,
Thanks for your post. Nicely done. My own observation since coming out in 1977: left to our own devices, gay men will screw first, think later. And therein lie our rampant STDs and inability to find loving partners. There are many in our community who go ballistic when they hear anyone being what they term sex-negative, which always makes me laugh, because their usually loud response is typical of an addict of any sort who thinks someone might have a damn good case for why his/her behavior is not healthy and, as such, addictive.

Keep talking. Maybe someday they'll actually grow up and listen.