If you are looking for a relationship and only finding people who want to hook up, perhaps you are looking int he wrong place. Interesting how many people complain about this. Perhaps we should have a site just for that? There is definitely something going on, but I suspect it's that people aren't always honest with themselves. It's easy to make other people wrong but if you aren't finding what you say you want, perhaps the place to make changes is within yourself. Not all gay men are constantly hooking up for anonymous sex. If that's the only guys you are meeting, you should ask what that says about your search.