Submitted by Tommie StarChild (not verified) on June 1, 2009 - 19:30.
I hear what you are saying. I did find the perspective to be negative. A curse is simply a matter of perspective, and yes I am HIV positive and have never considered it a curse. I have, instead, chosen to take responsibility for my choices and actions, and looked for the lessons. Life lessons are never curses unless I don't learn from them.
I find sex, all sex, with myself or others, to be sacred. I have learned the orgasm connects me with my god self, it is my god self that connects me with the universe. In addition, I have learned that when I am willing to love in the moment, and let go of the attachment to outcome, I have had some truly amazing experiences with men. Sex is am opportunity for me to love. Love without attachment. The more I love, the more love I have to offer, and the more I learn about myself.
We are often taught (by society) that sex is for manipulation (has an agenda - defines the relationship, no sex before marriage, no sex until the 3rd date, to get a new refrigerator, to make a baby, etc...). This takes us away from staying in the moment and being present for the sexual experience. When this happens, we loose site of what the experience was all about - "what was out motivation?" - and we start applying other expectations on the experience. (Oh, I should have... Or, he is not Mr. Right... Or, will he feel the same ways about me...)
We are responsible for how we feel. If we are not creating more meaningful relationships, then the question needs to be "what am I doing to create relationships that are not what I am looking for?" Then, understand - One: I have created a reality were I am having relationships less meaningful that I say that I am looking for. Are you actions in line with what I say I want? Two: Have my actions match what I say I want, OR, have what I say I want match my actions. Either way - this is not a curse. If it were a curse then we curse ourselves, thereby being fully capable to change a perceived curse into an opportunity to learn deeper understandings about ourselves.
We are not victims of our actions, we are creators of our reality! Why create a reality that is cursed???
I hear what you are saying. I
I hear what you are saying. I did find the perspective to be negative. A curse is simply a matter of perspective, and yes I am HIV positive and have never considered it a curse. I have, instead, chosen to take responsibility for my choices and actions, and looked for the lessons. Life lessons are never curses unless I don't learn from them.
I find sex, all sex, with myself or others, to be sacred. I have learned the orgasm connects me with my god self, it is my god self that connects me with the universe. In addition, I have learned that when I am willing to love in the moment, and let go of the attachment to outcome, I have had some truly amazing experiences with men. Sex is am opportunity for me to love. Love without attachment. The more I love, the more love I have to offer, and the more I learn about myself.
We are often taught (by society) that sex is for manipulation (has an agenda - defines the relationship, no sex before marriage, no sex until the 3rd date, to get a new refrigerator, to make a baby, etc...). This takes us away from staying in the moment and being present for the sexual experience. When this happens, we loose site of what the experience was all about - "what was out motivation?" - and we start applying other expectations on the experience. (Oh, I should have... Or, he is not Mr. Right... Or, will he feel the same ways about me...)
We are responsible for how we feel. If we are not creating more meaningful relationships, then the question needs to be "what am I doing to create relationships that are not what I am looking for?" Then, understand - One: I have created a reality were I am having relationships less meaningful that I say that I am looking for. Are you actions in line with what I say I want? Two: Have my actions match what I say I want, OR, have what I say I want match my actions. Either way - this is not a curse. If it were a curse then we curse ourselves, thereby being fully capable to change a perceived curse into an opportunity to learn deeper understandings about ourselves.
We are not victims of our actions, we are creators of our reality! Why create a reality that is cursed???