Submitted by Locksly (not verified) on June 19, 2009 - 16:33.
Family is for some of us, sometimes where you find them, they come into your life for a reason, then gone too... however it happens, a couple of years or even decades if you are so blessed to have each other that long and I have; but they're dead now, mostly. The friends I have now are straight black females. One gay friend left he's my oldest living friend of 28yrs.
Now, the Floridian way of making gay friends is to have sex with them first, lol, I find that too juvenile, so needless to say, in the 6yrs I've been here, I'v made no new gay friends, there more like vampires here, don't know about any place else. But largely I don't find as much of the family thing in the gay community, we don't embrace lesbians either as sista's and we really should...but I realize that goes back to the gender issues mostly.
Then there's the colour issues, lol, too many white gay folks don't see themselves as minorities because that would put you on par with us folks of deeper hues, lol, and you most certainly are like it or not and you mostly don't (denial) on the other hand, if I were brainwashed with the "Pathology of White," I wouldn't either. We stand too far apart from each other to be part of one another, I found this to be true in Minnesota, my home State, NYC of 4yrs, and now Ft. Laud/Miami. Just like the rest of Amer., we're not really all that united in our States now are we? I think the last decade prooved that point...Oh, then there's the "class issues too.
I'm sure you meant disfunctional family though, right?
Family is for some of us,
Family is for some of us, sometimes where you find them, they come into your life for a reason, then gone too... however it happens, a couple of years or even decades if you are so blessed to have each other that long and I have; but they're dead now, mostly. The friends I have now are straight black females. One gay friend left he's my oldest living friend of 28yrs.
Now, the Floridian way of making gay friends is to have sex with them first, lol, I find that too juvenile, so needless to say, in the 6yrs I've been here, I'v made no new gay friends, there more like vampires here, don't know about any place else. But largely I don't find as much of the family thing in the gay community, we don't embrace lesbians either as sista's and we really should...but I realize that goes back to the gender issues mostly.
Then there's the colour issues, lol, too many white gay folks don't see themselves as minorities because that would put you on par with us folks of deeper hues, lol, and you most certainly are like it or not and you mostly don't (denial) on the other hand, if I were brainwashed with the "Pathology of White," I wouldn't either. We stand too far apart from each other to be part of one another, I found this to be true in Minnesota, my home State, NYC of 4yrs, and now Ft. Laud/Miami. Just like the rest of Amer., we're not really all that united in our States now are we? I think the last decade prooved that point...Oh, then there's the "class issues too.
I'm sure you meant disfunctional family though, right?