Submitted by Rick (not verified) on April 15, 2009 - 11:16.
"Hot, for your age..." is much the same as "For a fat girl you don't smell too much", William. In an ageist culture I find the best strategy to be "I'll tell you my age when I'm sure it doesn't matter to you." A classy dude of any age takes the hint and doesn't push the issue - others who discriminate however will whine and won't let it go. Anyhow the genuine dudes who intend getting it on often don't even bother asking - one of my fave dates hasn't asked in almost three years lol
Age really IS a big issue for gay men and the advent of gay dating sites underscores the depth of intolerance towards older men from all generations of gay men. It doesn't have much to do with attraction choices either: it's often out-and-out dismissal of a human being based on a number. Kinda like fourteen year-old schoolgirls going "ewww" at their parents. And it's not a winning strategy either: I keep running into guys in their early twenties who are in the same boat as many "seniors" - they also haven't had a fuck in months. Dismissed for being too young or too fat or too skinny or too fem or some other shit.
As alleged sexual mavericks we really need to get over it, and quick. I think there are a lot more younger guys looking seriously at older men lately, but they also cop derision from the many age Nazis who turn their noses up at men over 35, but would happily suck off George Clooney. (And probably ask him to autograph a $5 bill for framing.) Older dudes can make it work better for themselves - and everybody else - by showing respect regardless of age, and expecting it returned. We certainly don't acquire high self-esteem by buying into attitudes and behavior which are all about the opposite.
Personally I find it unattractive for older men to be age apologists who fawn over younger men for no other reason than their birth certificate...all the while peddling cliched crap about wisdom and "fine aged wine".
Hot for my age? Hell, I reserve the right to be lousy in the sack, avoid the gym and be a complete idiot at times!
"Hot, for your age..." is
"Hot, for your age..." is much the same as "For a fat girl you don't smell too much", William. In an ageist culture I find the best strategy to be "I'll tell you my age when I'm sure it doesn't matter to you." A classy dude of any age takes the hint and doesn't push the issue - others who discriminate however will whine and won't let it go. Anyhow the genuine dudes who intend getting it on often don't even bother asking - one of my fave dates hasn't asked in almost three years lol
Age really IS a big issue for gay men and the advent of gay dating sites underscores the depth of intolerance towards older men from all generations of gay men. It doesn't have much to do with attraction choices either: it's often out-and-out dismissal of a human being based on a number. Kinda like fourteen year-old schoolgirls going "ewww" at their parents. And it's not a winning strategy either: I keep running into guys in their early twenties who are in the same boat as many "seniors" - they also haven't had a fuck in months. Dismissed for being too young or too fat or too skinny or too fem or some other shit.
As alleged sexual mavericks we really need to get over it, and quick. I think there are a lot more younger guys looking seriously at older men lately, but they also cop derision from the many age Nazis who turn their noses up at men over 35, but would happily suck off George Clooney. (And probably ask him to autograph a $5 bill for framing.) Older dudes can make it work better for themselves - and everybody else - by showing respect regardless of age, and expecting it returned. We certainly don't acquire high self-esteem by buying into attitudes and behavior which are all about the opposite.
Personally I find it unattractive for older men to be age apologists who fawn over younger men for no other reason than their birth certificate...all the while peddling cliched crap about wisdom and "fine aged wine".
Hot for my age? Hell, I reserve the right to be lousy in the sack, avoid the gym and be a complete idiot at times!