Submitted by MyLoCo9 (not verified) on April 11, 2009 - 09:49.
While I respect that the author had a point to make, and I generally respect the various opinions of responders here (and I've had random folks email me out of the blue to talk about what I wrote), I find your cherry picking, appeal to ridicule, and use of "red herrings" to be specious at best.
"Silly machismo"? Who does that refer to? Do I feel macho when I top? Sure...do I think bottoms feel macho? Yes, I'm believe they do, or at least they enjoy bottoming, which is why they do it. Do I respect the bottoms I've been with because they can "handle" bottoming? Of course.
Or is "silly machismo" just your blanket label for total tops? That's an interesting proof by example, as you state later on.
Yes, they author did label men that are total tops...for the sake of your literacy (since you want to be insulting), re-read what he/I wrote. While he referred to the label of "total top", he expounded upon his perceived impression of them...it's in his article, and I'm not going to run on pointing out where.
That would be "reinforcing a definition/stereotype", or what the kids simply call "labeling".
He did infer, imply, suggest, point out, etc. that total tops are/can be asses, basket cases, or wusses...again, re-read what he wrote. I can respect his position/opinion, and I can courteously disagree with it.
If you have issues with total tops, that's ok as well...but don't assume the reason someone is a total top is because "the most articulate response I've received to my queries of 'why not' have been along the lines of 'I ain't gonna be no one's bitch'. transparently pointless and silly machismo to the core"; your words.
You've never asked *me* why I'm a total top...I could give you articulate reasons, but I don't think you'd care about my position.
Total bottoms, total tops, vers, oral-only bottoms/tops, et al...whatever makes a gay man happy is fine...where I believe literacy should come in is in actually reading someone's profile (assuming they filled it out), so you actually know what they're looking for.
Even better, try talking to them and hopefully not randomly labeling them.
While I respect that the
While I respect that the author had a point to make, and I generally respect the various opinions of responders here (and I've had random folks email me out of the blue to talk about what I wrote), I find your cherry picking, appeal to ridicule, and use of "red herrings" to be specious at best.
"Silly machismo"? Who does that refer to? Do I feel macho when I top? Sure...do I think bottoms feel macho? Yes, I'm believe they do, or at least they enjoy bottoming, which is why they do it. Do I respect the bottoms I've been with because they can "handle" bottoming? Of course.
Or is "silly machismo" just your blanket label for total tops? That's an interesting proof by example, as you state later on.
Yes, they author did label men that are total tops...for the sake of your literacy (since you want to be insulting), re-read what he/I wrote. While he referred to the label of "total top", he expounded upon his perceived impression of them...it's in his article, and I'm not going to run on pointing out where.
That would be "reinforcing a definition/stereotype", or what the kids simply call "labeling".
He did infer, imply, suggest, point out, etc. that total tops are/can be asses, basket cases, or wusses...again, re-read what he wrote. I can respect his position/opinion, and I can courteously disagree with it.
If you have issues with total tops, that's ok as well...but don't assume the reason someone is a total top is because "the most articulate response I've received to my queries of 'why not' have been along the lines of 'I ain't gonna be no one's bitch'. transparently pointless and silly machismo to the core"; your words.
You've never asked *me* why I'm a total top...I could give you articulate reasons, but I don't think you'd care about my position.
Total bottoms, total tops, vers, oral-only bottoms/tops, et al...whatever makes a gay man happy is fine...where I believe literacy should come in is in actually reading someone's profile (assuming they filled it out), so you actually know what they're looking for.
Even better, try talking to them and hopefully not randomly labeling them.