Is this how wretchedly shallow it's all become? Little wonder gay men aren't making any actual progress when we're so stuck in mindless and loveless objectification and sexualization (of other guys) that we actually make such a big deal about topping and bottoming. It was all trial-and-error before the 'net anyhow so you'd expect the hard-core flakes to be satisfied, if not on their way to growing up.

We all have our preferences and at the end of the day there's no connection between desire and happiness anyhow - more often than not they're completely at odds. William's choice to not buy into it at all is the obviously sane way to go - more the better if you have some 101 understanding of the cerebral aspects of leather rather than blabbering inappropriate crap about arrogance when you're possibly a judgmental control freak yourself.

God help us all if the disgruntled suburban neurotics with a wish list keep setting the "gay" agenda...do what str8 guys do when they can't get what they want for free: pay fer it!