I was in a relationship with a(n increasingly insane) butch power bottom for 13 years...I had gotten fucked and liked it (if I was high enough) back in the day, but he wouldn't think of touching my ass. I Just wanted the occasional finger to a prostate (he was HIV+ and we always played safe, so, yeah latex gloves..)but he would give a minute or two and go get a drink.
I tried humor ("I've got a prostate and I ain't afraid to use it") sulking, I never demanded anything...He would say things like "you're not really gay" , and I would say "I sure like to suck dick for a straight guy". Last year, after a cumulative +6000 hours in his ass, he informed we we didn't have a relationship.
The guy I'm with now is also a big construction dude, who calls me daddy, and is more than happy to fuck and get fucked. I'm sold on versatility now, and being able to flip fuck.
I think it was Bobby Michaels ("Rimpig" on Nifty Erotic Archive) who wrote "Real men fuck men, and real hot men get fucked.."