Butch, you get my vote for the most cogent and sensible reply on this thread. My experience mirrors yours, with the caveat that even though I might fantasize about getting fucked, I can't - that's CAN'T, not won't - do it. Pain and nausea, dude. Pain and nausea. That combination's a real thrill-killer! Consequently I'm a total top. By the way, there are other activities that are truly romantic and that don't involve the anus of either partner. Two tops? Hey, it works for me. LOL!