Submitted by wantmy9 (not verified) on January 25, 2009 - 03:34.
I think Kirk is right on and although i have my own problems, when a guy asks me if it is okay to watch a porn movie while we play is really a turn off, but i politely say no problem. While we are having sex, i wind up spending my focus on the video, not the sexual fun i am really into. I wind up watching a video i have not seen and do not have at home as it is different than what i might have at home. Your drug of choice is the video porn and it is giving you the high and taking away the natural high you could be having with a guy if you took and put all of your energies into the sex and the other guy. Drugs are a distraction and you may have ADD, but that is a cop out i hate to say. The best drug in the world is the human body endorphins and when you get yourself so wrapped up in the other guy you will find yourself so high that you can actually make yourself drunk. YES, i have been there and many times. Allowing yourself to do more than the standard vanilla things you are used to doing will create an opportunity for those endorphins. I do not know what you see in the porn that turns you on, but put that into your own sex life and make it real. There is nothing more exciting than the reality of being in your own sex porn video in your own mind and being so wrapped up in it. If you have a video camera going all the better, but forget that it is running and be your own star as you focus on the other guy and his needs. You will also find that if you service his needs rather than your own, your own will come with due time. I do things with guys that they have never experienced before and wind up getting them off without even worrying about my own release. if the other guy is into it he will be involved enough to want to get you off too, and you will cum, because you are so sexually charged up by your fantasy of what you were doing with the other guy. Sex is all in the brain and if you let go and start doing some odd things or even kinky things you may be surprised. Also, when your partner is moaning, be aware and intune to what you are doing that causes him to moan and then do more of it. If, for instance when you suck him and you notice that he moans when you go all the way down, do it more often as you are able. Use your tongue and your lips, and especially on the underside of his cock as that is the area that usually will get a great deal of moaning and likely get him off. One more thing, do it blind folded so that you can create your own image of who you might be doing regardless of the physical look or attraction, you may or may not have.
Hope you find happiness and that your sex life is a blast once again.
PSW, randy
wantmy9
I think Kirk is right on and
I think Kirk is right on and although i have my own problems, when a guy asks me if it is okay to watch a porn movie while we play is really a turn off, but i politely say no problem. While we are having sex, i wind up spending my focus on the video, not the sexual fun i am really into. I wind up watching a video i have not seen and do not have at home as it is different than what i might have at home. Your drug of choice is the video porn and it is giving you the high and taking away the natural high you could be having with a guy if you took and put all of your energies into the sex and the other guy. Drugs are a distraction and you may have ADD, but that is a cop out i hate to say. The best drug in the world is the human body endorphins and when you get yourself so wrapped up in the other guy you will find yourself so high that you can actually make yourself drunk. YES, i have been there and many times. Allowing yourself to do more than the standard vanilla things you are used to doing will create an opportunity for those endorphins. I do not know what you see in the porn that turns you on, but put that into your own sex life and make it real. There is nothing more exciting than the reality of being in your own sex porn video in your own mind and being so wrapped up in it. If you have a video camera going all the better, but forget that it is running and be your own star as you focus on the other guy and his needs. You will also find that if you service his needs rather than your own, your own will come with due time. I do things with guys that they have never experienced before and wind up getting them off without even worrying about my own release. if the other guy is into it he will be involved enough to want to get you off too, and you will cum, because you are so sexually charged up by your fantasy of what you were doing with the other guy. Sex is all in the brain and if you let go and start doing some odd things or even kinky things you may be surprised. Also, when your partner is moaning, be aware and intune to what you are doing that causes him to moan and then do more of it. If, for instance when you suck him and you notice that he moans when you go all the way down, do it more often as you are able. Use your tongue and your lips, and especially on the underside of his cock as that is the area that usually will get a great deal of moaning and likely get him off. One more thing, do it blind folded so that you can create your own image of who you might be doing regardless of the physical look or attraction, you may or may not have.
Hope you find happiness and that your sex life is a blast once again.
PSW, randy
wantmy9