There are a number of things to keep in mind in this kind of situation, chief among them is independence. It is essential that one be completely self-reliant when traveling for any reason, particularly so when meeting for a first "romantic" encounter. That means all the things mentioned above: your own travel plans to and from your destination, accommodations, meals, and transportation.

It is a guilt-edged necessity to know who you will be meeting and have carefully vetted the individual in question. If at all possible, get somebody you already know well to vouch for your new contact. If you are an edge or rough player, make sure that your potential playmate is a skilled practitioner and that your skills are well understood and practiced. Serious scenes involving breath control, or other severe austerities such as prolonged bondage, captivity, or other demanding physical challenges should only be attempted with somebody that comes with references from men you know and trust. Don't get in over your head: be honest with your potential partners and yourself.

The advice to have somebody watch your back given above is good. Leave a trail and information with a trusted friend. Make sure that check-ins are mutual, and be sure to negotiate with your new playmate exactly what you expect in the way of an ability to communicate with the outside world.

If you are the guy watching out for an adventurer, be absolutely diligent in your duty. Call when expected to do so, call when you don't hear from your charge when you should, and in general be sure to make clear arrangements to keep in touch and verify the continued good health of your bud. Have a plan if you loose contact with the man you are looking out for. You may have to make a missing persons report, so be prepared to do that if too many deadlines have passed without contact. Your charges' life may depend on it.

There are predators on the internet, and some of them are dangerous. Everybody needs to be careful when traveling for sex. You can't just think with your dick, you have to use your head, and that head has to be clear enough to think about what is being offered, what you are offering, what you are going to accept, and what is being accepted. If you have doubts about anything, ask questions. If you think you smell a rat, stay home.

Having met several online friends face-to-face, I would just like to reiterate the bit about having enough money to get by if things go south. I once traveled halfway across the US to meet a guy; he paid my way there and swore up and down he'd pay my way back if things didn't work out. Things didn't work out (guy was bipolar and had failed to mention that fun little bit of trivia about himself), and I found myself dropped off at the bus station (I barely got the guy to drive me there, I almost had to hitch-hike). I literally had just enough money for the ticket home and a soda out of the vending machines (the trip was a day and a half, I was pretty damn hungry when I finally arrived home). If the ticket had been $5 more I would have been screwed.

Take care of yourself, and if you can't dig up a some emergency money for food and a bus ticket/plane ticket home, don't go.

Weve known for decades that health care costs are bankrupting the U.S. (though many Americans mistakenly believe that the government spends more on the military). The latest New Yorker has a good article on how the money actually gets spent.

After travelling abroad to visit guys from the internet who then turn out to have 'omitted' some significant feature about themselves (like a partner they 'haven't quite left yet') I have this simple piece of advice.

Don't travel for sex. If you're going there anyway, meet people. But don't make it the purpose of your journey.

This way, it works - you travel within the limits of your budget and the scope of your interest in the places or cultures. If a romance happens while there, great. If it doesn't work out, you have lost nothing, not even your dignity.

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Having traveled through all 48 lower states in a big rig, I've discovered that it's about a 98% chance that the really nice guys that I chat with on the phone or through email will flake out when it comes time to throw down. Excuses abound, from "my parents came for an unexpected visit" (left me hanging for two hours before calling to tell me) all the way up to "my landlord found me unconscious on the floor and I spent a week in ICU" (he called six weeks later). I've pretty much given up on the on-line thing. There's nothing more satisfying than eyeing another hot trucker and getting a knowing smile back. Face time is where it's at.

Basic logic dictates that a guy has to be able to take care of himself, and stand on his feet. If you are above the proverbial age of ten, you must know this.

I would not travel long distance to meet a guy for whatever only. I would, however, try to make contacts, meet other guys, if I am about to travel somewhere. Change is the spice of life, and meeting other people is what this is all about.

I understand that we all have different background, and that some of us have a bit more in our pockets than the others. Yet, travel, within the country is affordable. If you really think that the guy you want to travel for is worth your trouble, he ought to be worth the trouble of earning the petty cash needed for your travel expenses, too.

A guy who starts any relationship by having someone pay for his trip is actually already putting himself in a position of clear inferiority. It goes without saying that most daddies happen to have a bigger bank account than most hunters. Equally so, in a number of cases, a Daddy tends to be a bit on a sugar side, since this too, stems from the nature of things. Yet, if a dude is so short of cash that he cannot afford a trip, he might want to reconsider his priorities, and get a job first. Once the preliminaries are over, other financial arrangements can be made.

Basically, there is something unmanly about a guy, who cannot afford to stand on his own feet to such a low extent.

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If you are unable to develop a relationship in your own area, it seems there are at least two sensible solutions: (1) move somewhere there are more gay men and gay activities, or (2) get into some form of self-improvement education like group therapy or physical-development (gym/sports) with other gay men. You will soon find the objective truths of your attractiveness or lack thereof, so you can do something constructive about it. Thinking your soul mate is waiting for you somewhere over the rainbow is magical thinking and a great way to avoid the real reasons for your isolation.

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