President Abe “Log-splitter” Lincoln, who shared a bed with Joshua Speed for five years, was asked, “How long should a man’s legs be?” and replied, “Long enough to reach the ground.” A 1960s-era party joke riffed on that: “How large should a man's erect penis be?” to which the answer was, “Long enough to reach the ground.”
So let’s ask in all honesty: What size dick is big enough for you? Are you satisfied with your size? Why or why not? Do you have a different standard for the men you have sex with than for yourself?
Don’t tell me you never think or talk about these things. The obsession with dick size is infused in gay/bi men’s lingo (“size queen”) and omnipresent in queer men’s culture. Gay and especially bisexual men are stereotyped as oversexed — that is, as always wanting sex — but along with this common misconception is the idea that they’re also all well hung.
A recent vodka ad run on the back cover of several gay men’s mags displays a metal ruler with each inch mark marked 8. Their press release stated that the display ad takes “a humorous look at gay men and their fascination with perfect, eight-inch ‘member’ measurements.”
Of course, if eight inches is considered the perfect cock size, more than 90% of all men fall short of the mark. That’s an expectation that is bound to fail.
A recent article in a gay-themed magazine on well-hung men quoted one as saying that “no matter how bad things get,” he’s always got his oversized shlong to reassure him of his masculinity. But what would happen to his mental state if he had an accident, and what will happen when he gets too old to fuck? Will he no longer have any sense of himself as a man?
There are definite sexual advantages to having a baby carrot. Many men, especially those with strong gag reflex, prefer sucking smaller dicks: thus the adage, “Anything more than a mouthful is wasted.”
One top Daddy I know says that he was always self-conscious about his endowment — until his lover told him that he never thought of him as having a small dick, because when they fucked, he threw his whole body into the force of his thrusts.
Another saying goes, “It’s not the meat, it’s the motion,” and many, if not most, bottoms will be grateful to get a good hard pounding regardless of their fucker’s dick size. Says one modestly endowed friend who likes to top, “Nobody ever looks at my five-inch boner and thinks, Oh no! That’s too big for me to take! Smaller dicks fit in more places. So that’s why I get to fuck a whole lot of butt.”
Daddyhunt, unlike many other men’s personals/dating websites, has a place in their profiles for members to indicate in general terms the length and width of their, um, members. One DH model, a shortish bearded leatherdaddy, has the guts to admit in his profile that he’s small endowed. Even if fate has dealt him the short end of stick, you gotta admit, it takes huge balls to tell his truth. I think that kind of honesty is incredibly sexy, and very manly.
I've often thought that
I've often thought that bigger would be better, however, too big is painful not joyous as it should be. On the other side of the coin are those men who drive those huge, extended cab/entended bed trucks fit for a committee of dykes... aren't those guys typically trying to compensate for something? ;)
Sounds like you've got penis
Sounds like you've got penis envy to me.
Every man wants a big dick. Heck it goes to the heart of being a man. If you don't have one you compensate with ideas about it's the motion etc and not the size of the ship.
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Well I quite agree with most
Well I quite agree with most peoples (men) feelings about size. Except for thoughs that have honkers to begin with. It is sad that even on TV the size ads are enough to put a larger focal point on size!! Most seeing this and especially children may think even more that what they have isn't sufficient enough to make another person (gay or straight) happy!! which to me is shamefull!! Personally I like em long and skinny. That way you can enjoy it like a fine cigar and not choke doing it!!!
How about..."It's not the
How about..."It's not the length of the magician's wand that makes magic but the talent of the magician." LOL We all think about it, we all want a bigger dick for "show" but in the real world they CAN be too big for comfort (for most human beings, anyway) when you're plowing away. I'm one of those guys who's a "grower, not a shower" and while I'd love to make a bigger impression in the showers at the Y, the guys I bed have always been glowing in their comments and seem to see my dick as larger than it appears to me so I'm happy to live with what I've got.
Of course I would like to
Of course I would like to have a big dick, or even an average size dick. But I have a small one and I have to accept that just as any person has to accept that which can not be changed. I do have great orgasms, and at 54 years of age, I still get off 2to4 times a day, usually by my own right hand. So how can I be unhappy about my genitals? Remember the adage about the man who was unhappy that he had no shoes until he met a man who had no feet.
I'm endowed a little larger
I'm endowed a little larger than the "supposed" average 6" and have never had anyone complain that it's not big enough. My feeling is it's large enough for the other guy to know it's "there" without being too big for most to accommodate.
My opinion is that guys who say they are looking for "horse hung" are discouraging a lot of guys who might actually be very sexually satisfying....maybe lots of fun...and maybe even potential partner material, for those who are interested. I often catch myself thinking that a guy who needs a sex partner with a large cock might have such a loose ass that anything less than a forearm just won't "do it" for him. Hmmm?
My personal taste in other guys....I prefer anywhere from 5" - 7". I'm usually more excited by a nice ass than a big cock. But before either of those considerations, I like a HWP guy with cleancut looks, a warm & friendly personality and is a good kisser. I want to like the guy as much after the orgasm as I did getting there.
Hi Guy, Just wanted to let
Hi Guy,
Just wanted to let you know I appreciated your refreshingly down to earth and balanced thoughts on a very touchy subject. I'm just under 6" myself, and have usually had good experiences with other guys. But then there have been a couple who dropped me cold when they found out I wasn't big enough for them. It can leave you wondering if anything else about you mattered to them at all or if they were just waiting to find out how big you were, so they could decide whether they would stick around. So it's reassuring to hear someone say, (or write) the things you did.
By the way, I've had that same thought about a loose ass myself. I actually had a break-up conversation once where the guy I'd been dating was trying to be tactful, and said, "You're not the biggest guy I've been with". And I was trying to keep from laughing, because I was thinking to myself, "Yeah, I've noticed".
All the best, Dirk
I would hazard a guess that
I would hazard a guess that every man wishes he had a big dick - well at least those who have less than 8ins. And I suspect this is even more true for gay men. Why do you think so many gay men wear cock rings on their teenie weenies?
Pulease! How ridiculous to
Pulease! How ridiculous to think that every man with a cock less than 8 inches wishes he had a big(ger) cock. I have less than 8, but way more than the "average," and I would never wish that it was any bigger. I think that most men would agree. No?
I guess I've never really
I guess I've never really understood the size issue. I've always been happy with what I have, and most of the men I play with have been satisfying regardless of their size. It was interesting to hear some talk about how their brothers had larger ones and made them insecure (how does a man with 9+ inches feel insecure? His brother had 11.)
I think it's partly that men have some of the same body issues women do -- but they tend to come out a little differently.
In any case, as cliche as it is, it's best to be happy with what you have. And if you run into a size queen, remember that he'll probably be sitting there until he finds that perfect dick, while you go home with a better man.
I'm 70 years old and have
I'm 70 years old and have been with a good number of men. Dick size is NOT that important to me and, I believe, not that important to most men. Making love does NOT depend on size, it depends on how the person preceives himself and how he feels about his partner. I've been with men that had much more than average size and with men that had less than average. Honestly, as a preferred bottom, average or smaller FEELS better. If they're too big the discomfort can overwhelm the pleasure. After all isn't the pleasure the important thing? To each his own I guess.
I am "average" and maybe a
I am "average" and maybe a little thick. I have always wanted something a little more showy for the nude beach or the locker room espescially because I am a grower not a shower. when I am flaccid my member measures a mere 2.5" or less if it is even slightly cold. But, when excited it become a very rigid 6 to 6.5" and I have had many a man fawn over it's hardness so I have learned to like what I have.
please forgive my spelling
please forgive my spelling and punctuation errors... My typing sucks.
I'm with you. I am a little
I'm with you. I am a little bigger and thicker than average, 7.5 inches hard. But soft, I too am about 2.5 inches. I have a stocky build so the soft 2.5 inches looks ridiculous. I know some guys don't care about size but for me sex is very visual. I love looking a nude guys that are slim, this makes their flaccid cocks look bigger. Then when they get hard, mmmmmmm, great visual.
Bottom line: there is nothing we can do about. Enjoy what you have!
I used to think bigger was
I used to think bigger was better, until I dated a man so large that, after a night of tender lovemaking STILL made my insides feel like I'd barely survived a serious medical procedure... *LOL* After that, thick can be nice, though I've have enjoyed a few guys who were smaller than average who could make my butt feel like a Mack Truck pulled a wide U-turn down there. *huge happy grin* It's all in the delivery, and if he's hung like a bull, he better have tons of finesse to compensate for his "handicap" if he wants to impress me.
I have read a number of the
I have read a number of the responses and want to address the issue of social development and interaction in relationship to penis size. I'm a size queen. I admit it. I sometimes notice my obsession can interfere with my social and sex life. I fetishize big dicks and sometimes pick well-endowed partners whom I doubt I would socialize with otherwise. I have stayed with guys on occasion or even gone back to guys as a result. But not every big-dicked guy is good in bed. That's for sure.
Here's another thought: I have met well-endowed men who are so infatuated with themselves and their big dicks that they seem to be socially challenged. Their personalities aren't fully developed. Check out some of the profiles on Manhunt.
We gay men are right to question our obsession, but it's somewhat inevitable given that we are bound to make comparisons with each other because we are all men.
I think the size of a man's
I think the size of a man's cock does matter but it shouldn't define the man. I personally am hung huge and am happy to show it off, but sometimes it scares away bottoms who are afraid they will be hurt by it. That can be a real downer when a guy is very much into you until they see the huge dick. I personally don't judge theI am with by the size of their dicks. I am more into handsome faces, beautiful bodies, and great personalities. I can be turned on by a small dick or a large one and see each one as sexy in their own right. I also love the variety of different looks that a dick can have. Cut...uncut...thick...thin....crooked....straight...dark...light....a wonderful smorgasborg of manly meat.
BETTER NOT TOO BIG....It is
BETTER NOT TOO BIG....It is similar with the "fashion standards", .... NONE CAN TO BE PERFECT. Nature give us an ideal size for each.
Personally, I prefer men with a not too big cock, because at the time of penetration a bigger is unconfortable. In my country a "medium" cock is around 14 centimeters, and I have 16cm. Men say: Wow, nice cock, and I like to show it them. But they do not enjoy too much when I want to penetrate.
I enjoy a nice chest, face, ass, back, and legs. Cock is just one part of all. --just my opinion- CONGRATULATIONS AND HUGS FOR ALL!
I have found that almost
I have found that almost every LARGE cocked guy I've been with needed to be constantly told how huge they were. A few even went soft if you didn't repeat their mantra which, to me, gets real old real soon. One thing I hate is when a guy keeps telling me how huge I am. I consider myself average with a nice head--as one BF called it--a pretty Jewish dick and I have HUGE balls and I really hate when a guy keeps saying that I'm huge because I feel like it's not genuine--guess that's my insecurity...I guess not every guy is that perfect partner, but when it happens, it just doesn't seem to matter.
All you small dicked men
All you small dicked men should stop lying. Still sounds like penis envy to me. I bet if there was a pill to add 4 inches in the drug store tomorrow you would all be lined up.
And slcbigone4u what nonsense are you talking about? The only way you can think that you could be as you put it "way more than the average" and still be less than 8ins is if you think the average size of a dick is 3 ins. Stop with the nonsense
Just admit that you all would like to have had a big dick but are now resigned to the fact that it is what it is and be done with it.
Size???shoe size or
Size???shoe size or dick??
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the pends how do you use that...:)
This website is nothing more
This website is nothing more than a place for hookups, and for fantasy. Reality has nothing to do with it. So naturally everyone is gonna be 8+ inches because this is, after all, just fantasy. And everyone knows fantasy is always more satisfying than reality. I've been told this time and time again by the shallow, arrogant, egotistical young guys (and even a few of the older guys, too!) who live in Seattle: If you're not hung like a horse then you're not a real man.
I've also been told that I'm just one more old troll in a sea of old trolls that inhabit Seattle, hence the name.
To "Justin" -- no need to get
To "Justin" -- no need to get bitchy dude. My cock is 7 and 1/2 inches. The average is 6. If you don't think that 7 and 1/2 is much bigger than 6, that's your business, but don't take it out on me. Grow up.
It's pretty obvious that Big
It's pretty obvious that Big Dick sometimes equates to Big Prick. I'd gladly forego that extra inch or so if it means getting a nice guy without arrogance or attitude. In most cases, the guy with a big dick had little or nothing to do with getting it and it really makes him no better than the next guy.
I've never considered myself
I've never considered myself to be anything but average. With a 6" cut cock myself I know there is a wide range of sizes...from pencil stub to the large garden variety. As long as it works and does what nature intended, then why should size make a difference, unless your g-spot goes all the way to Uranus. haha
It's all a matter of
It's all a matter of proportion... and all in the eye of the beholder! That saidx a large dick on a small frame will always be a lot more interesting/exciting than the reverse -a small cock barely sticking out on a big guy :)
I'm a top, a daddy and above average (7.5x4.5") which may bias my opinion but here goes: I'm quite fascinated by "bull-dicks" but don't quite know what to do with them, it's eye-candy whereas small(er) dicks are more fun to play with.
To slcbigone4u Now who's
To slcbigone4u
Now who's being a bitch and a stupid one at that... Dude you said that you are "way more than the average". Even if you were being truthful and I truly doubt it. 1.5 ins more cannot be considered waaayyyyyyyy more than the average. It would have to be at least twice that for the consideration. So cut the hyperbole.
As usual, always a small dick man that gets bent out of shape over his lack.
It is what it is dude. Live with it.
You're an idiot. If one guy
You're an idiot.
If one guy is 6 foot tall and another is 7.5 foot tall, you could easily say that guy #2 is way taller than guy #1. The shorter they are, with a 1.5 foot difference in their height, the more way taller guy #2 is. The math of measurement works the same with inches as with feet.
So, to slcbigone4u, you're way bigger than the average.
To Justin, you're an idiot, but I repeat myself. And I'm stating the obvious. It's a talent I have.
Don't forget that old
Don't forget that old schoolyard maxim: The angle of the dangle is inversely proportional to the heat of the meat.
I've always had a fantasy of
I've always had a fantasy of sexually humiliating and dominating a muscleman with a really small dick. I haven't done it yet, though.
I think you'd be best to keep
I think you'd be best to keep that as a fantasy, it would be REALLY mean and insensitive if you actually did that to someone.
Are you really "blessed" to
Are you really "blessed" to have 8 inches? Doubt the size queens who wanted to play with it would remember my face or my name afterwards. I'm just a big piece of meat. And yes it scares some guys who feel it's too big and are not sure how to handle it. Two sides to every issue.
Interesting that the article
Interesting that the article says that 8inch is what people find that is the perfect size. I find that 6inch is perfect, I find the average size is 6inches. The guys I have met have been around 6inches, sometimes I kind of find it hard to find a guy who has the same size as mine, i'm sort of 2inches below the average size, I find it that a man with the same size might have the same interests as myself.
I'm not a guy that fascinates about having a big/long cock or meeting a guy with a big/long cock. I'm happy with whatever size the guy is. That's the same with how the guy is and how he wants to be.
I do like analysing guys seeing there whole body, the spirits did make guys perfect.
Interesting that the article
Interesting that the article says that 8inch is what people find that is the perfect size. I find that 6inch is perfect, I find the average size is 6inches. The guys I have met have been around 6inches, sometimes I kind of find it hard to find a guy who has the same size as mine, i'm sort of 2inches below the average size, I find it that a man with the same size might have the same interests as myself.
I'm not a guy that fascinates about having a big/long cock or meeting a guy with a big/long cock. I'm happy with whatever size the guy is. That's the same with how the guy is and how he wants to be.
I do like analysing guys seeing there whole body, the spirits did make guys perfect.
If you don't have an ass the
If you don't have an ass the size of an airplane hangar, it doesn't take a 747 to fill it. I am versatile and yes, I wish my 5.5 inch cock were bigger.... but as Ann Landers said, don't apologize for things you can't help. I had no choice in the size of my endowment. I have fucked guys that screamed at insertion, I have fucked guys that it was like sticking it out the window and fucking the world. But when I was getting fucked by "my guy" who was hung about the same as myself I found myself moaning fuck me with that big dick. So much of sex is mental and if you truly love someone it doesn't make any difference how big he is. My mantra is if I don't giggle when he drops his pants we're good to go.
I'm more than happy with my 7
I'm more than happy with my 7 inches. And I prefer guys with smaller endowments. Anything over 7" is just a pain the butt to me...literally. I'd rather enjoy the sensations from a smaller penis rather than endure the pain from a larger one.
I have found this blog quite
I have found this blog quite interesting. As a teenager growing up, I always felt I was small. My brother was well endowed with 8 or 9 inches soft, When I would see him, I felt inferior! I am a nice 6.5" and thick. I guess I'm above average in circumference. Many years later, I saw this little bearish guy younger than me, who honestly had the smallest dick I had ever seen in person. But, to my surprise, he was one of the best lovers I've ever been with.
I have an 8 + inch cock thick
I have an 8 + inch cock thick and enjoy using it often. I am not sure how many men I have fucked but most of them enjoyed it after iImanaged to open them up. Have had sex with them amny times, both of us enjoyed it tremedously. I can not say that a hugh cock is an advantage but I do enjoy using my cock often.
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I have always been interested
I have always been interested in the obsession with cock size. First of all, it's only a small part (no matter how hung you are) of your body. I am considered large at 8.5". But, I have been with guys who have heard that I was "huge" and were disappointed when they got in my pants. There are a couple of issues that aren't always great when you're hung large. First is that you don't always get to fuck. My first time was with my girlfriend in HS. It took years to convince her to let me do it. She was a afraid of the size. I've also had guys say no for the same reason. The other problem, for me at least, is that if you are a grower as I am (2-2.5" soft), you don't get that much attention in the gym, etc.
There are always those guys that are totally hung up (pun intended) on their size, They are usually the "showers". One thing to remember with "showers" is that, the cock doesn't get any bigger when it's hard. It only gets harder.
Enjoy the man you're with. No matter what the size of his cock is. He may surprise you with a huge talent!
Personally, I prefer a
Personally, I prefer a smaller dick (6" and under). I call 'em "party size" because you can do anything with them. Too big and you might as well just throw it over your shoulder and burp it. The best fucks I've ever had have been from guys with dicks that were considered smalland one of the worst was with a guy who was at least 10" and as big around as a beer can. Myself, I have 7.5" and have had no complaints, but I've never really wanted more. I completely agree that it's the way you use it.
Boo-hoo, big boys. Nobody
Boo-hoo, big boys. Nobody understands your pain at having a big cock. Aren't you all so noble for being seen as a big ole amazing piece of meat and continuing your sad struggle through life?
Shut the fuck up.
Bitter penis envy? You bet. It's what happens when you get rejected time and time again by superficial faggots who think that a penis is all there is to a person.
Remember the term, "AOL
Remember the term, "AOL inches?"
First off, it's what the gods and genetics gave us.
Second, I once "encountered" a dude boasting of his 9.5 inches. Must have been measured from his asshole to the tip. Need I say more?
Third, I had a buddy who told me he always asked guys who boasted of their dick size if they were measuring across the top of their dicks from pubic bone to the tip. Good one, I thought.
Fourth, I once flip/flopped with a younger man who had a very small dick, but once he mounted me, I thought, "Holy shit, I've got the biggest raging bull in the pasture whaling away in me." He turned me every which way but loose.
Technique! My $.02.
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I only like 'em big. That is
I only like 'em big. That is 8-10" because any more is too big. Once in my life I met a man bigger that 10" and it was fun to look at and jack off, but what more could I do? I have a tight hole and that wasn't going in there and i couldn't get my mouth around it.
I am one of those guys that guys complain about who only likes big dicks. I can't help it. I do. I really do. I assign a man with a large member as being more powerful (that's just me). He walks with more confidence and pride. I'm average and slight of build, but I wouldn't change anything about me. I like a man who is older and bigger than me, and with more hair and a big chest and a belly (no six-pack for me, thanks, but lets not confuse belly with obese). I don't think all men are intrigued with large endows, but you shouldn't fault those of us who are as many of you tend to do. Don't some of us desire tall men, or young men, or blonde men, or bubble-butted men, or muscled men, or smooth men, or ethnic men? I see profiles with age ranges on them like 18-25, or body dimensions down to the inch. Why is it different to worship well endowed men?
Penis size has always been a
Penis size has always been a gay issue and for some as has been discussed, prefer the smaller size, over one that is huge. I am fortunate to be very well endowed at 9"x6". I am not afraid to put my size in the profiles as i know guys look at this as much, if not more than anything. i too admittedly a size queen and like them big as i want to take them on as a challenge and enjoy it all the way. The biggest cock i ever took orally is 11", and the biggest cock i ever took anally is 10.5". I am not going to tell you though the biggest dildo i ever took was 18".
I am usually contacted by so many guys for my cock size than any other reason. I am not a hollywood beauty, but a decent looking guy, as we all know it is in the eye of the beholder. I am though otherwise a very nice guy. I have bottomed for many guys and for me even though i like larger, as the challenge, i want the guy to be able to function and perform more than anything regardless of size. I am admittedly a bottom by preference, but do top when the situation works out and am comfortable in doing so. Being large i am quite aware that guys want that buried in their ass one way or the other. At least they fantasize about it. I am always very careful when doing so and being gentle is important to me as well as them. I am not into creating damage or a bad relationship. My focus is on their comfort and enjoyment.
I think there are two avenues to being well hung. The guys that like you are focused on your dick and that can be irritating, if you want them to see all of you and not just a piece of meat. If guys like you for being you and not your dick size than all the better, but there are the guys that find a big dick is a disadvantage until they give you the opportunity to try it on for size and allow them self to get used to it once it is inside. Men have egos. The size of a mans ego can quite frequently be compared to be relative to the size of his dick. If you do not believe it, go to a bath house and walk around and see who is getting the attention. The guys that are young for one, and the guys that are very well hung, second.
There has never been a time a guy did not stare when he saw it or said "i have never seen anything so big". The first thing they ask is can i touch it"? Then they want to suck it and then of course, well you know the story we are in bed and they are so turned on. Now i hope that a guy is turned on by the sex, and not that i have a big, pretty dick.
The main thing though that is most important, that we cannot change the size we were given and have more if we wanted it. So accept what you have, regardless of size, small or big, and use it well.
Thanks guys for the discussion, love it,
Respectfully,
PSW, randy
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I too am obsessed by size. I
I too am obsessed by size. I fantasize about big dicks. There's a guy at my old gym with a dick at least 8 inches in circumferance. I have seen him twice. It is scarry. He is attracted to me and has gotten hard each time he's seen me. I have fantasized about getting fucked by him for years. It's just a fantasy, When I masterbate alone, and if I have a strong erection, I often jump out of bed to measure its size. I keep tape measures and rulers near my bed. I am re-assured when I measure at 7 inches and 6 around. I am dissappointed when it only measures 6.5. When I am in bed with someone, however, I am much more focused on them. Their dick size is not even important. It's only when I am alone (or on the subway staring at the bulges in front of me) that I am obsessed. No one I sleep with ever lets me fuck them (more than once). My bf is about 7-8 inches and 5 around. I cannot fit into his ass. It's too tight. On the receiving end, I find his dick perfect and always painless and very stimulating.
Personally, as a bottom,I
Personally, as a bottom,I find that width is more important than length.
It's not really something I care about to be quite honest, as long as it's sufficient to do the job at hand .....furry muscles are far more important to me :D
But the majority of my friends are straight and they are FAR more obsessed with size than any of my gay friends.
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